Writing to Legislators
Letter Templates (Editable)
Request for Inclusive Adoption Laws Supporting LGBTQ+ Families
Advocacy for Adoption Access for Single Parents
Promote Equal Adoption Rights for Individuals with Disabilities
Promote Equal Adoption Rights for Individuals with Disabilities
Adoption legislation varies significantly across countries and even within different jurisdictions of a single country. It can be broadly categorized as legislation for adoption, which establishes the legal framework and processes that enable adoptions to occur, and legislation that may, intentionally or unintentionally, act against adoption by creating restrictions or barriers.
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Legislation For Adoption:
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This type of legislation focuses on facilitating the adoption process and ensuring the well-being of children, birth parents, and adoptive parents. Key aspects include:
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Eligibility Criteria for Adoptive Parents: Laws specify who can adopt based on factors like age, marital status (single individuals, married couples, sometimes same-sex couples), financial stability, criminal record checks, and home study requirements. For example, in France, a single person over 28 can adopt, and there are age difference requirements between the adopter and adoptee.
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Consent and Relinquishment: Legislation outlines the legal procedures for birth parents to give their informed consent for adoption or to relinquish their parental rights. This often includes a waiting period during which the birth mother can change her mind.
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Termination of Parental Rights (TPR): Laws define the circumstances and legal processes under which the rights of biological parents can be permanently terminated, either voluntarily or involuntarily, to free a child for adoption.
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Home Study and Assessment: Regulations mandate home studies to assess the suitability of prospective adoptive parents. These studies evaluate their living situation, financial capacity, emotional stability, and parenting abilities.
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Intercountry Adoption Regulations: International treaties like the Hague Convention on the Protection of Children and Co-operation in Respect of Intercountry Adoption, and national laws like the Intercountry Adoption Act in the US, establish safeguards and procedures for adoptions across international borders, aiming to prevent child trafficking and ensure ethical practices. These laws address requirements from both the sending and receiving countries.
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Post-Adoption Services and Support: Some legislation includes provisions for post-adoption support services for adoptive families, adopted individuals, and birth parents, such as counseling, information resources, and support groups.
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Financial Assistance: Laws may provide financial assistance to adoptive parents, such as adoption tax credits or subsidies, particularly for the adoption of children from foster care with special needs. The Adoption Tax Credit Refundability Act in the US, for example, aims to make adoption more affordable.
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Recognition of Foreign Adoptions: Laws determine how adoptions legally finalized in other countries are recognized within a specific jurisdiction. France, for instance, has specific procedures for recognizing adoptions pronounced abroad.
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Best Interests of the Child: A fundamental principle in most adoption legislation is that all decisions must prioritize the best interests of the child.
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Legislation That Can Act Against Adoption:
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While not explicitly intended to prevent adoption in general, certain laws or the absence of facilitating legislation can create barriers or restrict who can adopt or be adopted:
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Restrictions Based on Marital Status or Sexual Orientation: Some countries or regions may have laws that only allow married heterosexual couples to adopt, or explicitly prohibit adoption by single individuals or same-sex couples. For example, Italy's laws prioritize adoption by married couples, and Russia prohibits same-sex adoption.
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Strict Eligibility Criteria: Overly restrictive age limits, financial requirements, or health criteria for prospective adoptive parents can exclude many suitable individuals or couples.
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Complex or Lengthy Legal Processes: Cumbersome legal procedures, excessive waiting periods, or a lack of clear guidelines can deter prospective adoptive parents and delay permanency for children.
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High Costs: The expenses associated with adoption, including agency fees, legal fees, and home study costs, can be prohibitive for some families.
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Restrictions on Intercountry Adoption: Some countries have suspended or severely restricted international adoptions due to concerns about child trafficking, unethical practices, or a desire to prioritize domestic adoption. For example, as of late 2024, China had stated it would no longer process adoptions to other nations, and several countries have restrictions on international adoptions with Canada.
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Lack of Legal Framework for Certain Situations: The absence of clear legal procedures for specific types of adoption, such as step-parent adoptions or adoptions by unmarried partners, can create legal uncertainty.
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Emphasis on Biological Family Preservation: While generally a positive principle, an overwhelming emphasis on reunification with the biological family, even in cases where it is not in the child's best interest, can delay or prevent adoption.
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Putative Father Registries: While intended to protect the rights of biological fathers, if not properly implemented or if they contain overly burdensome requirements, putative father registries can sometimes complicate or delay adoption proceedings.
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It's important to note that adoption laws are constantly evolving as societies' understanding of family and children's well-being changes. Many countries are increasingly focusing on the child's rights and the need for stable, loving permanent homes, which often leads to legislative reforms aimed at streamlining and improving the adoption process while safeguarding against potential risks.
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1. Educate Yourself
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Understand the laws: Research local, state, and federal adoption laws. Pay attention to where the barriers lie (e.g., restrictions on LGBTQ+ couples, single parents, age requirements, financial status).
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Identify discriminatory or outdated rules: Note which laws exclude certain groups or make the process unnecessarily complex or expensive.
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2. Raise Awareness
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Use your voice: Write blog posts, create social media content, or host community discussions to shed light on the issues.
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Tell personal stories: If you or someone you know has experienced unfair barriers, sharing that can have a powerful impact.
3. Engage with Lawmakers
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Contact your representatives: Send emails, call, or schedule meetings with state and federal legislators. Ask them to support reforms or introduce new bills.
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Propose changes: You can work with a family lawyer or advocacy group to draft a proposal to present to lawmakers.
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Attend town halls: Use public forums to ask questions and bring adoption reform into the conversation.
4. Petitions and Campaigns
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Start or support a petition: Use platforms like Change.org to gather support for specific legislative changes.
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Organize letter-writing campaigns: Encourage your community to send messages to lawmakers about the need for reform.
5. Join or Support Advocacy Groups
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Partner with organizations: Groups like the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption, Human Rights Campaign, or AdoptUSKids often work on legislative reform.
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Volunteer or donate: Your time and resources can amplify the impact of existing efforts.
6. Legal & Policy Careers
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If you're up for a longer-term commitment:
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Consider law or public policy work: As a lawyer or policy advisor, you can directly shape and challenge adoption laws.
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Clerk or intern with advocacy-focused offices or nonprofits.
Sharing Personal Adoption Stories
Why Sharing Your Story Matters
1. Humanizes the Issue
Policies often feel abstract, but real stories put faces to the people affected. A story of love, struggle, and resilience can connect with hearts in ways that statistics never will.
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2. Breaks Down Stigma
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Hearing from LGBTQ+ couples, single parents, people with disabilities, or people of faith who have successfully adopted helps challenge outdated assumptions and prejudices.
3. Inspires Others to Act
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Your story might encourage someone else to adopt, volunteer, or speak out. It creates a ripple effect.
4. Influences Policy
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Lawmakers are moved by compelling, personal stories — especially when they’re from constituents. A heartfelt testimony can be the push needed to reconsider harmful laws.
Ways to Share Your Adoption Story
1. Write It Out
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Blog Posts or Op-eds: Submit to local newspapers, magazines, or websites like Medium or HuffPost.
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Social Media Threads: Instagram, Twitter/X, and Facebook are great for bite-sized storytelling.
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Letters to Lawmakers: Include your story in a letter (like the ones I drafted earlier) to make your message more impactful.
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2. Speak Up
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Testify at Public Hearings: Many cities or countries allow citizens to testify when new laws are being debated.
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Speak at Events: Community panels, conferences, church or community center events.
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Podcast Guesting: Many parenting, LGBTQ+, or social justice podcasts are looking for real stories.
3. Use Video
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Record a Short Video: Share on TikTok, YouTube, or Instagram. Even a 60-second clip can go viral.
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Partner with Orgs: Groups like the Dave Thomas Foundation or Human Rights Campaign sometimes feature personal stories in their campaigns.
4. Creative Formats
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Illustrate or animate your journey.
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Write a book or create a photo essay.
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Collaborate with a filmmaker or student documentary project.
Tips for Sharing Your Story
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Be honest, not perfect: The challenges are just as important as the joys.
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Focus on impact: How did adoption change your life or your child’s?
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Protect privacy: Use initials or pseudonyms if needed, especially for children involved.
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Include a call to action: Tell people what you hope will change or how they can help.
Support Adoptee-led Organizations
1. Listen and Learn
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Follow their work: Subscribe to newsletters, follow on social media, and read articles or books written by adoptees.
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Amplify their voices: Share their content, quotes, and campaigns rather than speaking over them.
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Challenge your own assumptions: Adoptees often bring a more complex and nuanced view of adoption — be open to it, even if it challenges the "happily-ever-after" narrative.
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2. Donate
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Give directly to adoptee-led nonprofits, mutual aid funds, or creative projects (e.g., documentaries, podcasts).
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Support events like conferences, panels, or healing retreats.
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Consider monthly giving to help sustain them long-term.
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3. Amplify Their Advocacy
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Share their petitions, calls to action, and campaigns.
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Invite them to speak at events, schools, or policy forums.
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If you're in a position of influence (e.g., a social worker, policymaker, educator), make space for adoptee perspectives in your work.
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4. Volunteer or Offer Skills
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Offer your time or talents — whether you're into graphic design, web development, writing, event organizing, or fundraising.
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Reach out and ask what they need — don't assume!
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5. Center Adoptee Voices in Your Advocacy
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If you're working on adoption reform, make sure adoptee perspectives guide your messaging.
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Recommend adoptee-led groups to lawmakers, media outlets, or adoption agencies looking for “experts” — because they are the experts.